I think I made it fairly of clear in the past that I lived with several families growing up. I was too young (what does that even mean) for the sex talk when I was raped by my step father. Too young to talk to about sex but not too young to be raped. I had already caught glimpses of porn flicks on the television though. I remember an orgy train sort of scenario that I had to piece together in my head many years later. Nonetheless, my mom never gave me the talk. My step father gave me the wrong talk. Then I was shipped off to my aunt’s and uncle’s house. They must have thought I knew enough or was too sensitive to talk to after my ordeal. I wasn’t even properly talked to about periods before I had one but that I learned from “Are You There God? It’s Me, Margret” by Judy Blume. I was prepared enough to expect bleeding out of my cunt when it happened, though no one is prepared for it to happen with movers in the house on moving day (embarrassing).
Everything else I learned about sex and my body came from my friends, their parents’ porn, and fiction books. I never had sex education class. I never had a parent sit down beside me and explain what parts go where. I never knew what to expect really. These are some of the things I wish someone had told me. Not the pain, everyone and their brother told me it would hurt at first. No, the little things. Things most people seem to take for granted. Things the movies try and hide because they aren’t pretty enough to show.
I wish someone had told me that my cunt would be inexplicably moist sometimes and dry others.
I wish someone had told me about lube (for those inexplicably dry times).
I wish someone had told me that a guy’s cum will leak out of you for like 24 hours after sex.
I wish someone had told me about the wet spot or why a towel was important (believe me it wasn’t enough to have read “Hitchhikers Guide to the Galaxy”).
I wish someone had explained the important stuff about anal before I tried it my self.
I wish someone explained masturbation was more than penetration with a brush handle or my fingers before sex.
I wish someone had told me what/where my clit was before sex.
I wish someone had told me about how and why to use a condom.
I wish someone would have explained that hair also grows in your ass crack.
I wish that someone would have told me it that my general cunt smell was normal (and pretty sexy to non assholes).
I wish someone would have explained an orgasm without the terms “explosion,” “bam,” and “OMG” as the primary descriptors (seriously peoples descriptions will make a girl wonder her whole life if what she is feeling is a “real” orgasm).
I wish someone would have told me it was normal for my clit to be super sensitive for a long time post orgasm when I was young and for that to suddenly change in my thirties.
I wish someone explained the term “multiple orgasm” and why that wasn’t achievable at first (see above) (also I thought it meant “at one time” which was very confusing).
I wish someone would have explained that sometimes your cervix can get in the way of a good banging.
I wish someone would have told me that sometime you get horny as fuck while bleeding.
I wish someone would have told me that rimming was pretty nice.
I wish someone would have told me that handcuffs hurt a bunch but soft ropes, wider cuffs, and neck ties are all pleasant ways to be bound.
I wish someone would have told me how to get around the jaw pain of a long blow job or how to give really good head.
I wish someone would have told me what a yeast infection was before I spent that night with a cold washcloth fills with ice cubes between my legs (seriously had no clue what the fuck was happening to my cunt).
I wish someone explained to me it was normal for my clit to be to sensitive to directly touch but that indirect stimulation was very nice.
I wish someone had explained how to have an orgasm.
I wish someone explained that not feeling a g spot was normal (then suddenly feeling it when older was normal too).
I wish someone explained how to use my hands during a blow job and tip vs shaft technique.
I wish someone had told me to pee after sex to avoid a urinary tract infection.
I wish someone would have warned me that just when everything is going good you might get a awkward foot cramp that kills the mood.
I wish someone would have explained that sometimes five minute sex is far better than five hour sex.
I wish someone had told me that water is a terrible lubricant and that piv sex in the water is not as hot as it seems.
I wish someone had told me that sex on the beach is a terrible idea.
I wish someone has explained that nipples on women are greatly varied in how they look and size.
I probably missed some of my questions that I had at one time or another. I hope as a parent I do a better job of explaining sex and their bodies to my children. Maybe this will help you to do the same with your children, nieces, nephews, and friends. Tell me some of the things that you worried most about because no one told you.