Category Archive: Parenting

Sep 09

Subverting gender roles

I’ve never been femme. For a not-so-brief period in my life I was definitely anti femme. I would speak out of one side of my mouth that girls could do anything they chose to do while the other half of my mouth criticized at every turn the overtly femme choices that many girls chose to …

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Jan 01

Stain

I read this post/cartoon a while back. I’ve been too afraid to write this ever since. I am going to try now. Trigger warning cause this one’s going to be fucked up, but I don’t know how else to say it. Ever look at your child and wonder, “Will I rape him/her one day?” I …

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Nov 03

Things I wish I knew about sex and my body before it happened

I think I made it fairly of clear in the past that I lived with several families growing up. I was too young (what does that even mean) for the sex talk when I was raped by my step father. Too young to talk to about sex but not too young to be raped. I …

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Apr 14

Today my daughter touched a sturgeon

I think she might have touched one once before, but it is always a negotiation when we go to the aquarium. The water is cold. The sturgeons look scary, like they might bite. After many pleas on our part, and demonstrations of her brother letting his two fingers slide across the backs of harmless fish, …

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May 04

A few words

Tomorrow I hope to report on a wonderful day of fun and celebration at the UC Pride festival in Cookeville TN. I hope I can walk my children into the park and not have to explain to them why there are hateful people with signs, yelling and calling people names, threatening eternal torture with Hell …

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Apr 12

A response to Taslima Nasreen

In your post Do women really ‘choose’ to be prostitutes, you ask whether people would encourage their daughters to become prostitutes. I am going to say to that no, I would not ‘encourage’ my daughter, or son for that matter, to pursue prostitution as an occupation. I would, however, support their choice if either of …

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Mar 29

Talking with my child about abortion

I promised a parenting post. I did not say that I would be telling you how to parent. Aside from some specific circumstances, I think parenting is extremely subjective to a huge variety of context. I am neither qualified nor willing to tell you how to parent. I will talk some about how I parent. …

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Mar 14

For parents of kids who love science

Our kids love science. Who could blame them? From the time they could walk I have tried to take them outside to explore their world. More importantly I try to teach them how to ask good questions and how to extract the answers from nature itself. My oldest kid collects everything; feathers, rocks, fossils, bones, …

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Feb 22

Things I think about

First and foremost, I am a parent. I know many people like to think that their own person-hood comes before their children’s, but that line of thought for me can be dangerous.  Thinking of my role as a parent being of greater significance, helps remind me that there are greater reasons for me to remain …

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